if you're the one in your family who everyone else leans on — the one who fields the calls and manages the crises and holds the fear quietly so others don't have to — I want to say: I see how much that costs. you are allowed to need things too. you are allowed to say I am struggling. the people who love you want to be there for you. you don't have to wait until you're sure they can handle it. they can. let them in.